This week’s on The Sharon Fitzmaurice Podcast I was joined by Janis King, who shared something so simple, yet so deeply profound, it felt like a gentle truth tapping on the heart.
She spoke about her daily manifestation ritual. Each morning, she would ask for what she wanted. With consistency and intention, she called it in… or so she thought. What unfolded instead was something entirely different. What she received wasn’t what she had been asking for- it was what she needed.
And at first, it wasn’t welcome.
That really landed with me.
How often do we believe that getting what we want will bring us happiness, fulfilment, or a sense of arrival? We attach meaning to those desires, convinced they are the key to becoming who we’re meant to be. Yet, time and time again, life gently (and sometimes not so gently) redirects us.
Because growth rarely comes wrapped in comfort.
More often, it arrives disguised as challenge, disruption, or even disappointment. In the moment, it can feel like things are falling apart. But with time- weeks, months, sometimes years - we begin to see more clearly. What once felt like resistance was actually redirection. What felt like loss was making space. What felt like struggle was shaping us.
This perspective has brought a deep sense of peace into my own journey.
Through my own healing and inner work, I began to uncover parts of myself that had long been hidden. Layers shaped by expectations, conditioning, and the quiet belief of “who I thought I was supposed to be.” As those layers softened, something more authentic began to emerge.
My true self.
And in reconnecting with that truth, something beautiful happened.
New pathways opened - ones I could never have imagined from the perspective of my “old” self. Opportunities, connections, and experiences began to flow in ways that felt aligned rather than forced. It wasn’t just external change; it was internal expansion.
When we begin to open not only our minds, but also our hearts, something shifts in our energy. We become more receptive. More aware. More connected to the lessons within each experience. Life stops feeling like something happening to us, and instead becomes something unfolding for us.
There’s a quiet wisdom in that.
Janis experienced this turning point too. She realised that what she had been asking for wasn’t aligned with her growth - in her life, her relationships, or her work. Her first Tarot reading reflected a truth she didn’t want to hear. And yet, it was exactly what she needed.
That moment became an invitation.
An invitation to trust herself more deeply.
To listen beyond fear.
To follow the path that felt most aligned, even when it was uncertain.
And in doing so, she found herself in a place of alignment - not just in one area of her life, but across all of it.
There’s something incredibly powerful about that.
Maybe the real question isn’t “Why am I not getting what I want?”
Maybe it’s “What is this moment here to teach me?”
Because when we begin to trust that life is supporting our growth - even when it feels uncomfortable - we soften into it. We stop resisting and start allowing.
And perhaps, in that space, we realise…
We were never being denied.
We were always being guided.
Guided towards who we are becoming.
To listen to my conversation with Janis King, please click here:
About Sharon Fitzmaurice
Sharon Fitzmaurice is a Holistic Wellness Coach, Reiki Master Teacher and Practitioner, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and host of The Sharon Fitzmaurice Podcast, where she celebrates the resilience of the human spirit through meaningful conversations. She is the author of Someone Please Help Me, So I Did and Awaken Your Wellbeing, and a passionate speaker and advocate for mental health awareness and survivors of childhood abuse. Through her work and her Soulful Journeys online community, Sharon supports others in reconnecting with themselves, healing, and living with greater purpose and authenticity.